8 Proven Ways to Bless Those Who Hurt You

By David •  Updated: 11/18/20 •  8 min read

Do you think you can bless those who hurt you?

It is always easier and even intuitive and natural to want to pay back (revenge). Exclude, treat with indifference, or curse those who hurt us.

Bless Those Who Hurt You

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It is common to be hurt, hold a grudge easily, be angry, and wish the person who hurt us to suffer. But what differentiates a believer from an unbeliever is the ability to forgive even when the person doesn’t deserve it.

I know it’s not easy, but wouldn’t we become similar by paying back? Treating the same way or fixing confusion over confusion? We don’t have to be equal and pay evil with evil.

“Do not let yourself be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”(Romans 12:21)

What happens when you bless those who hurt you?

One proven way to bless those who hurt you is to pray for them.

Praying for a person we love is easy. But praying for a person who hurt us is very difficult.

By praying for those who hurt you, you allow yourself to unleash mercy and trust God to remedy the problems. And God makes you see that revenge, unforgiveness, resentment, hatred are not Christian virtues.

God teaches us to be like Him: rich in mercy, always ready to forgive, tolerate, patient, and compassionate.

The scripture in Luke 23:34 says “Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing”

The Holy Spirit begins to mold your heart after God’s. You will see that all that resentment in your heart that intoxicates, is replaced by the honey of Christian charity. Life becomes much lighter.

The suffering that that person caused you was already great. Do you still want to make that suffering worse, feeling resentment?

If you pray with faith and charity for the one who hurt you, God will intervene. Don’t expect immediate results, but have hope, absolute trust in God. 

Also Related: 10 Most Common Strategies That Satan will use Against You.

The following are eight proven ways to bless those who hurt you. 

  1. Don’t get even

The first feeling when we are hurt is to wish to revenge. The best way to take revenge on an enemy is not to be like him.

Revenge always comes from the weakness of the soul, which is unable to withstand injury.

Nothing will strengthen you if you have vengeance in your mind and heart. Revenge is bitter and painful. It is not healthy for those who give or for those who receive it. There is no mercy, compassion, or sensitivity in revenge.

You don’t have to be the same. You don’t need to stop or try to prove that revenge is stronger.

Remember that revenge is not loving. If we want to be better people, we must overcome and let the Father’s justice be present. Not being similar to the same conduct is more advantageous than the other way around.

The bible in Romans 12:19 says “Beloved, do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” says the Lord.”

  1. Pay with good

Act differently with that person. Show that you have the pure love of Christ, that you can forget what has been done to you, to be kind, to love your neighbor. Share this kindness through sincere acts, acting completely differently from the person who offended you.

“Now hope does not disappoint because the love of God has been poured out in our hearts by the Holy Spirit who was given to us.” (Romans 5:5)

  1. Don’t follow the world standard

The world standard tells us to protect ourselves by fighting back. God tells us not to follow this pattern and to be wise.

The pain of humiliation, exclusion, defamation, persecution, betrayal, falsehood, lying, or any other type of activities done to hurt you is a test of faith that you must exercise.

It will not be easy to accept that you must set aside, but the more you feed the hate or anger in your heart, the greater your suffering and the more disappointing the consequences of thoughtless conduct or impulsive action.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but transform yourself by renewing your mind. So that you are able to experience and prove the good, pleasant and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12: 2)

  1. Pray

Certainly, you will need to pray and ask for strength not to fight back, hold a grudge, and not have the worst feelings for the person who has hurt you.

Prayer has a refreshing and comforting effect. When we admit that we need it and seek help from the Lord, He will give us the strength we need to overcome and be someone even better.

“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, persevere in prayer.” (Romans 12:12) 

  1. Don’t listen

If there are people who instigate you to be angry with a certain person, say that you will not do that. Because On the contrary: “if my enemy is hungry, I feed him; if he’s thirsty, I’ll give him a drink.” (Romans 12:20)

Show that the world does not need wrong and inhuman actions. We are the children of a Creator who loves us and wants us to be better people. Because He believes in our potential so much that it allows us to go through these adversities.

  1. Focus on getting better

As simple as it sounds, many people forget about this advice. You must be a better person to bless those who hurt you. Our world is full of suffering only because people hold in themselves the pain caused to them and then pass it on to others.

To stop this, you must understand that being able to control your emotions, and others cannot influence them in any way unless you allow them to. Focus your energy on creating a new self, not destroying others.

You will feel much more satisfied if you focus on yourself and self-improvement. Plus, you will find inner peace, which is many times better than toxic thoughts.

  1. Love those who hurt you

“Darkness cannot disperse Darkness: only light can do that. Hatred cannot destroy hatred: only love is capable of this” Martin Luther King

If you wish someone harm, in the end, this feeling of hatred can destroy you. Think about it: if you emit negative vibrations, you lower your vibrations and thus attract bad karma.

You attract what you are, so if you seek revenge, you will only increase your pain. You will not be free until you let love in. Need to love those who hurt you, no matter how difficult it may seem.

You do not need to do it in one day, take it step by step. Strengthen the love in your heart, and you will see a positive result every day.


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  1. Forgive the hurt and move on

“Bless those who hurt you; bless, and do not curse them.” Romans 12:14

This blessing is honest, upright conduct, free from malice, free from anything that imprisons and diminishes any existing being.

No matter how many stones were thrown at you. No matter how much pain you have already experienced through this, or suffered from such humiliation, always forgive.

Forgiveness has this healing power, which relieves and revives and does not leave us with the desire to treat badly.

“Do not repay anyone evil with evil. Try to do what is right in the eyes of all. Do everything possible to live in peace with everyone.” Romans 12: 17-18

“But I say to you: Love your enemies and pray for those who hurt you.” Matthew 5:44

Always be light instead of Darkness. The light can illuminate even the largest and most dense Darkness to become an example of virtue and love.

If you act in this way, you will see that the pain of being injured, persecuted, or hurt has made you so strong. Able to overcome anything, and rise as happy and beautiful as an eagle in the shining sun.

Also Related: 15 Ways to Help You Demonstrate God’s Love.

In conclusion

Remember, there are no perfect people. Make up your mind to bless those who hurt you whether they deserve it or not

We live in a world in which people tend to make mistakes and make them quite often.

Some mistakes have serious consequences, and some are made by accident, without bad intentions. We are all just trying to survive, and most of us unknowingly wish others harm.

Sail on the same sea, resist the same current, and try not to drown. We do not always succeed in this. Does this mean that we need to be punished?

Allow people to make mistakes and develop, and remember that you may have made the same mistake at one time.

If we remember that the people around us are just like us, it will be much easier for us to bless them.

Forgiveness: Breaking the Power of the Past by Kay Arthur, David Lawson, and BJ Lawson

Biblical Boundaries of Forgiveness by Vee Chandler PhD

The Power of Forgiveness: A Guide to Healing and Wholeness by Emily J. Hooks


Is an Ordained Minister and Life Coach. He is an ordained minister since 1988. Shortly after receiving Jesus as his personal savior, he answered the call to ministry.

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