How to Become a Godly Woman Worth Pursuing

By David •  Updated: 03/22/20 •  11 min read

Every Christian woman long to become a godly woman worth pursuing. She wants a godly man who knows her worth and appreciates her uniqueness.

She has a lot to bring to the table and wants the man interested in her to see this.

How to Become a Godly Woman

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Proverbs 31:10 says, “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies.”

Every godly woman considers herself of noble character but wonders why godly men don’t seem to notice.

This article will help you develop the qualities that make you a godly woman worth pursuing.

Lisa Zech makes an interesting observation. By stepping back and allowing the man to be the pursuer you are proving your faith in God.

By doing this, you are trusting God to guide a man to win your heart.

The six ways below will position you to become a godly woman worth pursuing.


#1 Know your identity.

Becoming a godly woman worth pursuing starts with knowing your true identity. God created you wonder and your beauty doesn’t depend on a man.

Psalm 139:14 says, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”

Embrace yourself as a woman of God and know that you deserve the love of a godly man.

When you know your true identity, you don’t fall for a man simply because he said he loves you. If you are secure in who you are, you won’t lower your standards so as to accommodate a man.

As a woman of God, you have an identity in Christ that defines you. You are the daughter of the King and that means you are royalty. You are a child of God and righteous through Christ.

According to Compelling Truth, the lies in the world try to equate a woman’s worth to her physical elements alone.

A godly woman knows this is not where her true value lies. She doesn’t use her charm or beauty to try and get a man, and she prefers to remain authentic Psalm 31:30.

#2 Wait for a man to pursue you.

Proverbs 18:22 gives us insight into who does the pursuing. It says, “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.”

Cheryl Martin makes an observation about the above Scripture. “It does not say, ‘She who goes looking!’

A man loves the pursuit. Trust me. When he sees what he wants, he goes after it. If a man you adore is not pursuing you, he is not interested in you.”

The world has taught women that it’s okay to pursue a man if he is shy or doesn’t make a move. The danger in this is that you could be entertaining a passive man without knowing.

According to Dr. Faith Wokoma, men are naturally born to pursue and conquer. Not that women are to be conquered, but that their hearts are to be won.

Women sometimes end up pursuing a man relentlessly because age is catching up. However, you may choose a husband blinded by desperation.

An article on The Life of a Single Mom says you should not be in a hurry but be patient. God’s best will be far better than you can think or imagine.

Also Related: Top 105 Bible Verses about Marriage and Love.

#3 As a godly woman worth pursuing be independent, not needy.

A godly woman is independent and takes charge of her life and doesn’t wait for a man to do it. She is a good steward of the finances that God has put in her hands Matthew 25:23.

This is how she becomes a good steward of the resources in her life.

A godly woman worth pursuing knows that God is her source and not man. She doesn’t act needy when she meets a man because she knows that it is God that meets her needs.

She is secure in who she is and does not need constant approval from her man.

Justine Mfulama says there is nothing that turns a man off more than a needy woman. A woman that is emotionally dependent on him can take a toll on the relationship.

This woman is oftentimes seen as anxious, jealous, clingy, and of course needy. She accepts and demonstrates behaviors that a confident and secure woman wouldn’t.

As a godly woman, take care of yourself emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Be a resourceful woman because this prepares you to have the qualities that are outlined in Proverbs 31:10-31.

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#4 Indulge in intelligent conversations.

A man wants a woman who can engage in an intelligent conversation with him. He wants more than a beautiful woman who knows how to look good.

He knows that when you meet, you will not just stare at each other but engage in a stimulating conversation.

According to Andrew Courtis, a woman shapes the way people speak, behave, and even influence others.

What makes a woman influential in a lasting and God-honoring way is not her position, education, personality, or background. The basis of her lasting influence is her character.

King Solomon was an intelligent and wise man and knew many things about life. This made others seek him just to hear what he knew about life.

In 1 Kings 10:1, the queen of Sheba heard about the fame of Solomon and his relationship with the Lord. Because of this, she came to test him with hard questions.

Don’t miss the fact that Solomon’s relationship with God was a key factor in his intelligence.

To engage in an intelligent conversation with a man, read widely, and be knowledgeable about many things in life. This will spice up your conversations and make you interesting.

#5 Support a man’s dreams.

Leslie White gives men the following advice: “Never overlook a woman who makes you a better man.” A godly woman is one who makes a man better.

She doesn’t mother him but she cheers him on in the work that God has given him. She is not with a man just to have one by her side. You should Support his dreams and encourages him to fulfill his destiny.

A godly woman supports her man in every way she can. She leads him to resources that will help him achieve his dreams. Prays for and with him. She leads him to others who can be of help to him.

Priscilla was a godly woman and together with her husband, she gave Apollos a greater understanding of the gospel.

“When Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they invited him to their home and explained to him the way of God more adequately” Acts 18:26.

As a godly woman, you can be a source of wisdom to a man.

When you support a man’s dreams, he knows you are a woman of great value in his life. You become irresistible to him and he will thank God that you are in his life.

#6 Have a good sense of humor

According to Crystal McDowell, a godly woman doesn’t display a sarcastic or mocking verbiage at the expense of others. She brings an inescapable joy with her wherever she goes.

This means a godly woman can be fun to be with and maintain her righteousness at the same time. She knows better than engaging in obscene jokes and profanities.

Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk, or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.Ephesians 5:4

Having a good sense of humor means you can joke and laugh and not always take things seriously. Be lighthearted and joyful. Others can have a good time with you and walk away refreshed.

Leslie White sees a godly woman in an interesting way. She helps your parents out at Thanksgiving and understands your brother’s twisted sense of humor.

She will want to know your friends. This kind of attitude will help you get along with the significant others in a man’s life. A man is confident that you will embrace his family and love them.

You can take the gospel seriously and still be a lighthearted and hilarious woman. Don’t lose yourself thinking you must be serious all the time.

#7 Develop inner beauty to be a godly woman worth pursuing.

1 Peter 3:3-4 gives you the way to developing inner beauty. It says that your beauty should not come from outward adornment.

This includes things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes.

Your beauty should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.

A woman with a gentle and quiet spirit doesn’t mean being quiet. It means that you are content, calm, peaceful, and not contentious.

You allow God to work on you and make you gentle at heart like Jesus.

Alistair Begg says something worth noting. A wise man looks for a woman whose beauty comes from time spent in front of the mirror of God’s word.

That while external features might get our attention, it’s the person’s inner qualities that should cause the real attraction.

A godly woman takes the time to work on her inner self which is attractive to a godly man. She is attractive on the inside and outside and knows that she is more than her physical body.

A woman of God knows that her worth cannot be seen with the physical eyes.

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#8 Be respectful to a man.

A woman of God that a man finds worth pursuing is one that is respectful. She understands that men love women who respect them.

Mark Ballenger says that men look at a woman and try to imagine what life would be like with her.

If a man imagines being disrespected by a woman in their marriage, he will not get to know her in dating.

Mark then says a respectful Christian woman is not quiet, un-opinionated, or eager for a man to make decisions for her.

Rather, a respectful Christian woman is someone who values a man’s strength. She wants to encourage him to use it in Christian leadership, service, and for the protection of others.

A man wants a woman who will respect him in marriage like Ephesians 5:33 commands. Disrespect in dating will continue even in marriage.

You may be attractive on the outside but if you can’t respect a man, he won’t be attracted to you. Men feel loved when they are respected by their women.

Ensure you are respectful to everyone around you and not just the man in your life.

#9 Delight in God’s word.

God gave us his word to guide our everyday lives. If we are to obey God’s commands, we must know them so that we can live by them.

A godly woman worth pursuing takes the time to study and know God’s word. She knows that it makes her wise.

There is a nugget of wisdom outlined in an article on the Set Apart Girl blog. It says that it’s beautiful to see a woman who knows and delights in God’s word as the Psalmist did.

She spends time studying, learning, memorizing, meditating, and growing in intimacy with Jesus through the truth of Scripture.

A godly woman has experienced the benefits of the Bible. She knows that the word of God has promises that sustain her life and give her wisdom Psalm 119:98-100.

As a godly woman, read the Bible and let God instruct and correct you through it. He will train you in righteousness and make you more Christlike.


Elizabeth George says that becoming a woman of God is about living according to God’s priorities. It involves making choices that reflect that God is your ultimate priority.

Your relationship with God is the starting point in being an interesting woman.

Develop the qualities above that make you a godly woman worth pursuing. Keep in mind that a godly man wants a woman who values her relationship with God.

Meditate on the following powerful quote by Isaiah Borgum. It will inspire you to become a godly woman worth pursuing.

A woman of virtue attracts a man of value



Is an Ordained Minister and Life Coach. He is an ordained minister since 1988. Shortly after receiving Jesus as his personal savior, he answered the call to ministry.