Top 17 Proven Ways to Attract A Godly Man

By David •  Updated: 04/04/17 •  11 min read

How can I attract a Godly man, Pastor? A Godly man is hard to find, right?

Well, I could say yes because I have heard more stories about how difficult it is to attract one than otherwise, but I wouldn’t.

You see, like everything else in life, you attract what you are. Now that may sound straight to the point, but here is why I said that.

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Have you ever thought of the difference between what a Godly man wants in a woman versus what the other men want?

Are you trying so hard to please men to the point you have lost yourself? If yes, there is a problem.

My promise to you is that this article will open your eyes to the many things Godly men are looking for in a woman they want to spend the rest of their lives with.

No, it may not be all there is to it, but these 17 points will show you how to attract a Godly man:


  1. Know Yourself

This is like the first rule in life – “oh (Wo)man, know thyself!” The thing is if you don’t know yourself, how do you know or attract the kind of man that fits you?

Understanding you is the key to attracting anything good in life; be it a Godly man or anything else.

Trust me, you have no idea how far self-realization can get you in life. Ramana Maharshi said it best, “Your own Self-Realization is the greatest service you can render the world.”

  1. Own Yourself

Now, a lot of people think knowing yourself is enough, but what happens after you have known the kind of personality that you have?

Are you going to graciously accept it and be proud of it or you will try so hard to become who you are not?

Here’s a simple truth, a Godly man will know when a lady is living a lie. A life full of lies is clear and obvious for everyone else to see, except you, and that is not how to attract a Godly man.

You need to own yourself, or better said, be yourself.

  1. Internal Security

Call it self-confidence, call it high self-esteem, you cannot attract a Godly man when you are insecure in who you are.

Now, it is one thing to own your personality, it is entirely another thing to be secure in who you are or have become.

You did not give birth to yourself, neither were you the one that formed you in your mother’s womb.

Internal security comes from understanding the fact that you were placed where you are for a glorious purpose.

It means you are confident that it’s only a matter of time before all things fall in pleasant places for you. Let that confidence guide your everyday life.

  1. Find Your Purpose and Pursue it

There is nothing more attractive to a Godly man than a woman of purpose.

When you have discovered who you are, taken pride in that person, and pursuing the cause you were created for, you will never have a problem attracting a Godly man.

You see, men love women that are not just sitting down doing nothing, but are out there making the world a better place.

Living a purpose-driven life as a lady is a magnetic force to attract a Godly man.

Think about it for a second, if you are the man, would you be attracted to you if you are just there doing nothing with your life?

  1. Be Presentable and Decent

According to the age-old saying, how you dress is how you will be addressed. Trust me, that saying will not cease to be true anytime soon.

Here’s the thing – you cannot dress using the world’s tactics to try and impress a Godly man. What you get is exactly the opposite.

The Bible made us understand in 1 Cor. 14:40, But all things should be done with regard to decency and propriety and in an orderly fashion

Now, that doesn’t mean you have to dress ‘all churchy and covered up’; it means you have to wear outfits that complement your figure and not expose all your blessings in a bid to look attractive.

Decency is one thing godly men find very attractive as opposed to the other men.

Also Related: How To Pray Effective For A Godly Husband.

  1. Don’t Wear Your Problems on Your Face

Have you ever looked at someone and straight-up known they are going through some terrible stuff in their life? Well, everyone knows that except them.

The worst part? They keep repelling that thing they desperately want, including a Godly man.

I love how Henry Fielding puts it, “A good countenance is a letter of recommendation”.

Yes, a letter of recommendation that all is fine or going to be fine, even though it looks rough at the moment; that you can handle pressure whenever it comes later in the future.

No man wants to be with a moody woman, trust me.

  1. Stay Positive

Having a positive mindset goes beyond keeping you healthy in helping you attract the best things in life.

Why does this even matter? Well, if you have ever dealt with a difficult person, you’d know exactly how it feels.

You don’t have to say; we all know difficult people are pessimistic, paranoid, and have negative energies.

Do you think a Godly man would be attracted to someone in the above description? I don’t think so.

Keep your mind positive. Refresh your mind every day with motivational and inspirational talks and books. This keeps you sane and more attractive to the man of your dreams.

  1. Show Due Respect

Have you ever heard the saying, “men love to be respected?” Well, if you haven’t heard that before, it is true. One of the greatest needs of man, besides sex, is respect.

A man wants to feel in charge. He wants to feel like ‘the man’ that he is, not the second in command in his own house.

It doesn’t matter if you have more money or investments than everyone else around you, just show people that you respect them.

This tells more about your character than you can imagine. And oh, nothing is more attractive to a Godly man than a meek and respectful woman.

  1. Make People Feel at Home Around You

Friendliness is a force that attracts the best of people into your life. When you make people feel loved and at home around you, you make yourself totally indispensable.

You know why? They always want to be around you. You make them feel like themselves, not someone else.

It doesn’t matter your class, if you cannot live at the level of those around you, it is going to be difficult to attract a Godly man.

Welcome people graciously and talk with them as though you’ve known them since forever.

Romans 15:7 said, “Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God.”

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  1. Draw the Line in Your Relationships

As much as being friendly is important, it is good that you draw the line and make your stand clear with people. If you don’t do this, they are sure going to take your relationship for granted, disrespect the privilege, and that is absolutely what you don’t want.

As a friendly lady, you obviously would have a lot of men around you, not necessarily the man of your dreams. This is why if you do not clearly draw the line, you will drive away from the Godly man you are trying to attract.

Imagine him seeing all these men flocking around you, he’d think you are already taken.

  1. Get Out of Your Own Way

Most times we get so engrossed in trying to get what we want that we forget we are standing in our own way.

Here’s the catch – if you are busy looking for something, you may never get it, but if you relax and just live, you wouldn’t know when it will come.

Ever heard the saying, “the best of things come at the least expected times?” Well, it is true.

It is true of other things as much as it is true for love, with your dream Godly man of course.

  1. Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover

As a Godly lady, what do you say to a man who comes asking you out and all covered up in tattoos and blinks? I know, right? But here’s the deal; do you know most ladies have missed their dream man because they were too quick to judge?

You see, a Godly man is not necessarily the man in suit and tie, and of course, a big bold bible across his chest; a Godly man can be that former club and tattoo lover, that converted serial smoker, or even that converted cultist.

Instead of jumping to conclusions about him, why not give him some time to prove himself?

  1. Be a Disciplined Woman

A disciplined woman is one that does things not because her peers do them, but because she is convinced that it is the right thing to do.

She knows there is more to life than buying the latest fashion item in the market, not because she doesn’t have the money to, but because she is disciplined enough to control her finances.

This is the kind of woman a Godly man would be attracted to. Stephen Covey said it best, “The undisciplined are slaves to moods, appetites, and passions.” Are you a disciplined woman?

  1. Let Your Love for Children be Obvious

This is true for Godly men as much as it is true for other men. You see, men want a woman who genuinely loves kids and can take good care of them.

No man wants a wife who’d eventually leave their kids to the mercy of the nanny – no, not at all.

You have to show your genuine interest to become a mother, a teacher, and a family lover for that dream man to see.

This speaks volumes about you and the future they can have with you as a family.

  1. Be a Good Listener

Most women are seen to be ‘talkative’. But what is communication without giving the other person a chance to say what he/she has in mind?

You can see the frustration already, can’t you? This is the same thing with men.

No matter how perfect you are with other qualities, if you are not a good listener, you may find it hard to attract that Godly man.

The catch is, men, love a submissive woman, who not only allows them the luxury of time to express themselves but also listens attentively to what they have to say.

It’s another form of respect if you ask me.

  1. Serve God in Your Local Church

What better way to put yourself out there to attract that Godly man you’ve been looking for? You see, they love a lady who is sold out to the things of God; a lady who sincerely wants to serve and be a part of the Kingdom project.

Join the workforce of your local church, not because you want to attract a Godly man, but because you sincerely want to serve.

As Colossians 3:23 said, Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men”

Take your mind off the fact that you will be seen and just serve.

  1. Love God

Of course, two cannot work together except they agree, right? If that is true, then you know you cannot attract a Godly man if you are not ‘Godly’ yourself.

There is nothing as fulfilling as two souls who love God, coming to be together forever. It’d be like an eternity of peace and koinonia.

You see, when you love God, you’d have a better chance of attracting the best things in life. You know why? Because God’s plan is to give you an expected end – hope and a glorious future.


There you have it, Ladies! attracting a Godly man is not rocket science, you don’t have to change yourself to find one either.

You only have to understand certain things, and I believe the above would point you in the right direction. I would like to end with this powerful quote from the legendary Maya Angelou,

A woman’s heart must be so hidden in God that a man has to seek Him to find her.


Is an Ordained Minister and Life Coach. He is an ordained minister since 1988. Shortly after receiving Jesus as his personal savior, he answered the call to ministry.