Many times we are faced with the dilemma of knowing when we are ready for a relationship.
God makes is easy for us to know by giving us signs that it is time and we should get ready. In this article we will look at 13 signs that God is preparing you for a relationship.
The Bible has many stories that show that God desires for us to be married. For us to get to the threshold of marriage, we first need to be in a relationship.
God said in Genesis 2:18 that it is not good for a man to be alone and made him a helper. This shows why we desire to pair up with the opposite sex to form a relationship leading to marriage.
God gives us signs that are easy to interpret within the context of His Word. Ours is to discern that we are in a season of preparation for marriage.
Below are 13 signs God is preparing you for a relationship.
1. God Will Take You through a Healing Process
For us to thrive in a healthy relationship, we must first heal. We need healing from past relationships and the hurt we received from others in our past.
When we carry emotional wounds into a new relationship, we contribute to its dysfunction and eventual demise.
God prepares you to be in a relationship by taking you through a process of healing from emotional wounds.
As we go through the process, we leave behind anger, bitterness, disappointment, vengefulness, and other negative emotions. We can ruin a good relationship if we are still wounded emotionally.
Healing is important because it helps us to put the past behind us and forgive those who offended us. God restores us to wholeness so that we can love the person He is bringing into our hearts wholeheartedly.
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2. God Will Remove Some Relationships from Your Life
When God is bringing us into a season of preparation for marriage, He will remove some relationships from your life.
Not everyone is going where God is taking you and not everyone has your best interests at heart.
We don’t always discern the relationships that are good for us and God helps us by removing the unfruitful ones from our lives.
Abraham left for Canaan with his nephew Lot. All was going well when strive arose between their herdsmen.
It was clear that the land could not support both of them because they had grown in riches and herds. Abraham suggested that they separate and each to go his way (Genesis 13:8-9).
A time of separation comes in our relationships and we have to let some of them go. Not all people can handle our blessings, we outgrow some relationships, and others are a distraction.
Allow God to remove the people who need to leave your life.
3. When God Asks You to Repent for Making Marriage an Idol
God puts us in a relationship first which leads to marriage. Sometimes we have made marriage and idol and God will reveal it to us.
This is a sign that He is preparing you to be in a relationship that will lead to marriage. In the meantime, we are to repent of making marriage an idol.
When marriage is an idol in your heart, you will want it more than God. This means that if God puts you in a relationship then, you will put your partner on a pedestal.
Your priority will be to them and not God. God has to tear down the idol of marriage in your heart before putting you in a relationship.
If God shows you today that you have made marriage an idol, repent and patiently wait for when God is ready to put you into a relationship leading to marriage. Idols in your heart will make you stumble and sin (Ezekiel 14:3).
4. You Will Start to Desire Being in a Committed Relationship
If you begin to feel a desire to be in a serious relationship, it is a sign that God is preparing you for one.
This desire is a pure one that comes from a heart submitted to God. Psalm 37:4 says that when you delight yourself in the Lord, He shall give you the desires of your heart.
When your desire for a relationship aligns with God’s then He will prepare you for it. The desire for a relationship we are talking about is one that is not born out of idolatry or lust, but out of pure intentions.
5. God is Asking You to Grow Your Relationship with Him
Another sign that God is preparing you for a relationship, He emphasized the need to grow your relationship with Him.
This growth helps us to depend on Him and give Him first place in our hearts. He knows that as humans, we have a tendency to get lost in relationships and forget about Him.
In Deuteronomy 17:17, God said that a man should not multiply wives for himself lest his heart turn away from Him.
This shows that our hearts can easily turn away from God when we are in romantic relationships. We guard against this by strengthening our relationship with God before we get into a relationship.
To grow in your relationship with God, spend more time with Him in prayer and reading the Word so that you will know Him intimately and keep Him first always.
6. God Will Direct You to Resources on Having a Healthy Relationship
If you notice that God is leading you to resources on healthy relationships, then this is a sign that He is preparing you for one.
If you find that you are getting invitations to attend conferences, meetings, courses, etc., on marriage, it is a sign that God wants to bring a relationship into your life.
When God directs us to places that help us understand our role in relationships, He wants to equip us for success.
If we are not ready, we can ruin a good relationship and remain with regrets. God sometimes gets our attention by leading us to videos or blog posts that talk about relationships. If we are discerning, we will get the message.
7. You Have a Strong Impression to Write a List of Qualities for a Spouse
God speaks to us through strong impressions in our hearts and when we pay attention, we will get His message.
If you strongly feel that you need to write a list for the things you desire in a life partner, then it is a sign that God is preparing you for a relationship.
A list helps us to put into perspective what we expect of the other person. It gives God a chance to speak into your desires for a spouse and to counsel you with His wisdom.
If you feel that you need God’s wisdom to know what qualities to look for, ask Him. He will give it to you without finding fault with your asking (James 1:5).
As you write your list, let your standards be guided by the Word of God. This way, they will be realistic and will help you identify the right person for you.
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8. God Nudges You Bring Closure to Previous Relationships
We normally walk away from past relationships and think that we have moved on.
There is the common belief that when you leave a relationship, you are done and ready to move into the next one. The truth is that we need time to heal and bring closure to every relationship in our past.
One sign that God is preparing you for a relationship is that He will nudge you to bring closure to certain past relationships.
You may have thought that your past is behind you but one chance meeting with an old flame will ignite the sparks you thought were dead.
God normally brings to mind certain relationships and shows us that we need to bring closure to them. This prevents us from the temptation to go back to relationships that were never meant to be.
Remember Lot’s wife? She turned into a pillar of salt because she turned to look at Sodom and Gomorrah burning. Her heart had not moved on to the experiences of her former residence (Genesis 19:26).
9. God is Teaching You the Meaning of True Love
The world has skewed our view of love and as Christians we get lost in doing love according to the world.
A sign that God is preparing you for a relationship, He will teach you what true love means and how to give it in a relationship.
When God places emphasis on the importance of loving another like He ordained for it to be, know that He is preparing you.
It is important for us to love others the right way so that we can have marriages that last and bring God glory.
Loving others the right way starts with loving God and then ourselves. We are then to love others like we love ourselves (Luke 10:27). We cannot give others what we don’t have.
10. God is Asking You to Relocate
If you have been praying about marriage and God leads you to relocate, then He is preparing you for a relationship.
Sometimes we have to move to another location so that we can meet the person God has prepared for us to marry.
When Abraham wanted a wife for his son Isaac, he asked his servant to go to another location.
God led the servant to Rebecca, who was to be Isaac’s wife. “But you shall go to my country and to my family, and take a wife for my son Isaac” (Genesis 24:4).
Relocating is not for everyone but those God has given this specific instruction.
11. God is Leading You to Develop Certain Character Traits
A sign that God is preparing you for a relationship is that He will lead you to work on certain character traits.
These are the ones that will ensure you are successful in your new relationship and thrive in marriage.
We will not enter into marriage as perfect people but we need to develop characteristics that are important to committed relationships.
Developing these character traits will mean that God will prune certain habits from you or show you new habits to develop.
For us to develop the character traits that are necessary for a serious relationship, we have to be connected to Christ, who is the true vine.
John 15:2 says that every branch in Him that bears fruit He prunes so that it may bear more fruit.
12.You Have the Maturity to Keep a Relationship Quiet
The world has taught us that we must shout out loud about every good thing happening in our lives. When you have the maturity and desire to keep a relationship quiet, it is a sign that God is preparing you for a serious one.
Keeping quiet about a relationship does not mean keep it a secret. It simply means that you will not post pictures on your social media profiles about every little thing you do with your partner.
You do not see the need to tell everyone that you are dating or have met the one God has ordained for you to marry. You prefer to navigate the relationship quietly.
13. God Alerts You about a Relationship in a Dream
God uses dreams to communicate to us about what He is about to do (Job 33:14-15). He spoke to people a lot in dreams and He does the same today.
If He alerts you about a relationship in a dream, then know that He is preparing you for one.
You will most likely find that in your waking life, God will lead you to do a number of things that will aid the preparation process. God uses dreams to get our attention because our minds are clear and at rest.
The above signs are some of the common ones that God uses to show you that He is preparing you for a relationship.
Everyone is unique and God will use a language that you will understand. When you see the signs, prepare yourself for the relationship that God wants to bring your way.